There are times when we come under immense pressure, and as a result there is a high build up of stress. And then we come under the influence of negative factors like -hopelessness, despair, frustration, anger, anguish etc. Let’s look at some of the reasons for this: - Repeated failures
- Exhaustion by putting in efforts without a ray of hope
- Unending delay in getting results/ desired outcome
- Too much work with impractical deadlines
- Too little work, all the time to brood
- Lot of multitasking
- Health issues
- Strain in relationships
- Unexpected and contrary outcome
How to handle such a situation?
[I] Short term remedies-Take measures to come out of the negative influence immediately so that you don’t go into clutches of negativity-
a) Remember that this will also pass
b) Talk to a true friend/ confidante
c) Take an immediate break if possible – watch a comic movie, programme
d) Spend time close to nature
e) Cleanse your eyes and pent up emotions if that works well for you:)
f) Go for a walk, game
[II] Permanent cure
An example that I remember here is- if you are sitting on a chair and there’s a pin in the chair hurting you, what will you do? Remove the pin? If you are not able to remove it, then? Then you’ll get up and sit on another chair. How do we relate this with stress?
If you can control the cause of stress, do it. But, if you cannot control the cause of stress, learn to control your response to it, this will always be in your control. How? Read on.
1. Identify the cause of stress—true cause is not the unexpected outcome or outrageous behaviour of some person; the true cause is our expectation from and deep attachment with the result or the person.
2. Look within- Once you’ve established that it was your own deep desire which led to disappointment, you’ll realise that the solution is with your own self. No extrinsic factor can control you unless you lose control.
3. Strengthen yourself-
a. Be determined not to give in to negative influences
b. Have a regular physical activity-game, walk, yoga, gym
c. Meditation- it charges up every cell of the body and helps a lot in mind control
d. Pursue a hobby, something you always wanted to do but could not find time for
e. Read something positive, motivating and energising
f. Remember that there is a divine planning behind everything, HE has HIS own plans for you
g. Help someone in need, it’ll boost your spirits amazingly and the positive charges between that person and you shall do a lot of good
h. Pray-it works like nothing else
i. Remember that we exist for a larger picture
j. Promise yourself to be happy in all situations. Read my earlier post on happiness & hurdles
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