Our thoughts form the very basis of our relationships in every sphere of life. Thoughts are the first level of communication. They create and send vibrations. They form an aura around us, which is the first perfume that we wear. If our thoughts are negative in any manner, somewhere somehow, they will show in our behaviour, because every thought radiates energy.
Merely speaking and doing right is not enough. It is like doing patchwork. The energy produced by thoughts is much more in number and power than sound energy. Hence, strengthening the foundation is required. This can be done by using the following steps:
Merely speaking and doing right is not enough. It is like doing patchwork. The energy produced by thoughts is much more in number and power than sound energy. Hence, strengthening the foundation is required. This can be done by using the following steps:
1. Awareness: Unless and until we are aware of our thoughts and thinking patterns, we will not realise that the key to sound relationships is with us. One has to put in a conscious effort like self introspection to create awareness. There can be the following outcomes when one tries to become aware:
(a) Hopelessness: I don’t want to think like this, yet I am not able to change, forget it.
Eg: What a feeble body I have, but no, I can’t, I just can’t do anything about it.
(b) Compromise: I am ok with it
Eg: I lack physical strength-I am fine, I don’t need to do tough work anytime in life.
(c) Challenging oneself -I know I need to change my thought process and I will do it.
Eg: I want to increase my stamina and will join the gym, work on my diet and increase it.
(a) Hopelessness: I don’t want to think like this, yet I am not able to change, forget it.
Eg: What a feeble body I have, but no, I can’t, I just can’t do anything about it.
(b) Compromise: I am ok with it
Eg: I lack physical strength-I am fine, I don’t need to do tough work anytime in life.
(c) Challenging oneself -I know I need to change my thought process and I will do it.
Eg: I want to increase my stamina and will join the gym, work on my diet and increase it.
2. Being in charge: When we decide to change, we can do it
Eg: If the car is in 5th gear and our foot is on the accelerator, we need to slow down by- removing our foot from the accelerator, changing the gear, using brake.
Similarly, our thoughts that travel at a speed that is much higher than the speed of light, needs to be reduced. The following can help in controlling the multiplicity of thoughts-
(a) Meditation
(b) Chanting mantras
(c) Spending time in vicinity of nature
(d) Self introspection on a daily basis
(e) Earlier post on http://deepali-enlightenment.blogspot.com/2010/03/thought-management.html
Eg: If the car is in 5th gear and our foot is on the accelerator, we need to slow down by- removing our foot from the accelerator, changing the gear, using brake.
Similarly, our thoughts that travel at a speed that is much higher than the speed of light, needs to be reduced. The following can help in controlling the multiplicity of thoughts-
(a) Meditation
(b) Chanting mantras
(c) Spending time in vicinity of nature
(d) Self introspection on a daily basis
(e) Earlier post on http://deepali-enlightenment.blogspot.com/2010/03/thought-management.html
3. Positive reinforcement
It is not about- not to think, rather it is about- what to think. We need to train our minds to think positive. The following help us develop positive reinforcement:
(a) Positive self talk and reaffirmation on a daily basis.
(b) Building a loving relationship with our own self because, our relationship with others is merely an offshoot of our relationship with ourselves.
(c) Being a good parent to oneself.
It is not about- not to think, rather it is about- what to think. We need to train our minds to think positive. The following help us develop positive reinforcement:
(a) Positive self talk and reaffirmation on a daily basis.
(b) Building a loving relationship with our own self because, our relationship with others is merely an offshoot of our relationship with ourselves.
(c) Being a good parent to oneself.
Life can be really fulfilling if one has stable and secure relationships; and the the struggle in inter-personal relationships shall become so easy.
Most of the ideas given above have been taken from a talk show called Soul Connection (by the Brahmakumari Mission) on television on Aastha channel. The channel has soulful stuff for the younger and not so older generations too:)
Have a great week ahead!
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