What is it that you want?

In life, you get what you really want. Is it? Yes, it is.

There are two things that work:

1.   When you truly, dearly, passionately, badly want something, all your efforts are dedicated in that direction

2.   Somewhere the law of attraction also starts working. Nature conspires to complement your efforts.

Does that mean what you do not get, you did not try enough?

Well, yes and no.

1.   Yes because probably you could have tried it somewhat differently; you could have persisted a little more. Perhaps you gave up a bit early. Remember the story of the little boy who wanted to climb the giant Mount Everest? After trying for years and not being able to make it, he one day said- "Look Mr Mount Everest, now you cannot grow taller but I am both taller and bigger than before".....

Life is indeed like a hurdle race, you cross one and there’s another one to welcome you. As you grow big, so do your hurdles. However, beyond a certain point, hurdles stop bothering because you are so well equipped to handle them. With every problem or failure there is a success story as well, that of getting a new learning, facing the problem or the failure.

Life keeps testing our patience and persistence and gives us two options- either give up or make it till there.

2.   No, because something else was planned by nature/ supreme power/ God which was for your own betterment in the larger scheme of things. Or it was purely as per the law of karma or deeds.

So, what we get is purely the causal effect of our efforts and deeds.

What is now important? The basic what, how, whys-

Know what you want

Know why you want it

What are you willing to do for it

How will it affect you-positively & negatively

To conclude, I get 3 key learnings from the above written matter:

1.   Know your priorities very very clearly. There will be numerous occasions when you will have to reprioritize. What you need to remember is what is NOT a priority at every point of time; and what is it which, if everything else is lost will keep you happy.

2.   Adhere to self made boundaries, that is, know your non-negotiables- values, dignity, self respect?

3.   Once you are clear on point no 1 & 2,go all out- body, mind and soul to do what you want to do.

Last but not the least, always listen to your inner voice/ gut feeling/ sixth sense.

All the very best!

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Emotional Transformation

It is highly misconceived that being emotional means being weak.  Absolutely not! On the contrary it could make a person strong too.

Being emotional per se does not make a person weak or strong, it is the CHOICE of emotions that makes him so. Yes, like other tangible things, we can make a CHOICE of emotions we want to feel more. We can choose to feel blissful, happy, enthusiastic, compassionate, content, peaceful, loveful, empathetic , passionate, joyful and the list goes on. (Try listing 10 emotions you want to feel)  irrespective of the external factors.

While we had so far been thinking that it is only natural to feel sad, dejected, hopeless, angry in face of a failure or a challenging situation; yes it is natural because that is how we are conditioned. However it is in our hands to decide whether-the emotion is in us or we are in the emotion. The external factors are out of our control, but what about our own selves? Do we want to lose control over ourselves too? So what we need to do is:

1.    Notice ourselves and our inner dialogue

2.    Accept the negative or un-resourceful emotion and the situation

3.    Control  the inner dialogue

4.    Take a neutral stand, by physically and mentally dissociating from there

5.    Decide the resourceful or positive emotion we want to feel , instruct oneself and bring it in the system

Of course it is not easy, yet with practice and a conscious effort it is possible. Mind training tools from Neuro Linguistic Programming, positive self talk which is the inner dialogue and meditation will make it very easy.

Remember that no matter how difficult the situation is, we can handle it only with a calm and peaceful mind. Moreover, negative emotions  lead to many a psychosomatic disorders. We can feel a difference ourselves –what are the energy levels when we are happy and enthusiastic vis-a-viz when we are under stress and agony?

So coming back to where we started,

1.    Choose your emotions thoughtfully

2.    Emotions like love, compassion, peace, enthusiasm, empathy, joy are resourceful emotions as they catalyse positivity within and around

3.    Accept the un-resourceful emotions and choose the extent and timing, for example –know when and how much of anger has to be expressed so that it works as a disciplinary tool.

When you, as a leader embrace resourceful emotions, you will feel more empowered to handle your own and your team’s emotions.

When you display empathy, compassion, love, passion,  won’t your team be motivated to go all out and do what you’ve told them to do.

Please channelize your emotions responsibly knowing well that love begets only love (minus a few accidental aberrations). This is the only way to transformation. And I know that my readers are already on a journey towards a higher destination.

Have a lovely and loveful weekend!

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