Emotional Transformation

It is highly misconceived that being emotional means being weak.  Absolutely not! On the contrary it could make a person strong too.

Being emotional per se does not make a person weak or strong, it is the CHOICE of emotions that makes him so. Yes, like other tangible things, we can make a CHOICE of emotions we want to feel more. We can choose to feel blissful, happy, enthusiastic, compassionate, content, peaceful, loveful, empathetic , passionate, joyful and the list goes on. (Try listing 10 emotions you want to feel)  irrespective of the external factors.

While we had so far been thinking that it is only natural to feel sad, dejected, hopeless, angry in face of a failure or a challenging situation; yes it is natural because that is how we are conditioned. However it is in our hands to decide whether-the emotion is in us or we are in the emotion. The external factors are out of our control, but what about our own selves? Do we want to lose control over ourselves too? So what we need to do is:

1.    Notice ourselves and our inner dialogue

2.    Accept the negative or un-resourceful emotion and the situation

3.    Control  the inner dialogue

4.    Take a neutral stand, by physically and mentally dissociating from there

5.    Decide the resourceful or positive emotion we want to feel , instruct oneself and bring it in the system

Of course it is not easy, yet with practice and a conscious effort it is possible. Mind training tools from Neuro Linguistic Programming, positive self talk which is the inner dialogue and meditation will make it very easy.

Remember that no matter how difficult the situation is, we can handle it only with a calm and peaceful mind. Moreover, negative emotions  lead to many a psychosomatic disorders. We can feel a difference ourselves –what are the energy levels when we are happy and enthusiastic vis-a-viz when we are under stress and agony?

So coming back to where we started,

1.    Choose your emotions thoughtfully

2.    Emotions like love, compassion, peace, enthusiasm, empathy, joy are resourceful emotions as they catalyse positivity within and around

3.    Accept the un-resourceful emotions and choose the extent and timing, for example –know when and how much of anger has to be expressed so that it works as a disciplinary tool.

When you, as a leader embrace resourceful emotions, you will feel more empowered to handle your own and your team’s emotions.

When you display empathy, compassion, love, passion,  won’t your team be motivated to go all out and do what you’ve told them to do.

Please channelize your emotions responsibly knowing well that love begets only love (minus a few accidental aberrations). This is the only way to transformation. And I know that my readers are already on a journey towards a higher destination.

Have a lovely and loveful weekend!

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